Has anyone else ever had left over evil spirits from teenagers in their sewing room?
A few years ago when my youngest literally flew the coop (he’s a pilot so I’m allowed to say it), I was ecstatic as it finally meant I got a decent sized sewing room! Before he was in there, it had been my daughter’s bedroom so for many years, any time I wanted to ask them a question, etc., I get to the door only to be met with the standard teenage greeting, “Go away, Mum”. This always left me depressed that I wasn’t welcome in that room. Even going in there for a fun conversation didn’t do it for me.
Anyway, skip back ahead to moving out week… I cleaned it from head to toe, basking in the glow of “It’s all mine now!!!”. I thought it would be a wonderful feeling but the go away mum thing was still haunting me, lingering just behind the doorknob. I figured it would leave the moment I’d start sewing but it didn’t. This went on for a couple of months and I didn’t want to go in there. It was heartbreaking.
I started to ask some quilters about that feeling (those with kids that had moved out) and they were suggesting burning sage. I really didn’t think that would do anything so I sprayed some lavender in there instead. It didn’t really work but it smelt nice enough.
I had to get rid of this feeling so I started to welcome myself into the room, do a little happy dance and tell myself that this was a happy room and it was mine and good things were going to happen here. Even today, I still get that slight twinge of angst but I think I’ve just got to get in there and enjoy the largest sewing area I’ve ever had. I don’t think it helped that I didn’t really use the space while I was writing my books for those three years.
If you have had this problem, not the teenagers, just the feeling left over in the room, how did you deal with it? I’d love to know. I don’t really want to bring a priest in! I put on my favourite movies, have decorated the pegboard with some lovely materials and got a space for everything.
May your sewing space be filled with love and fun!